I used to yell at inanimate objects. Granted I still yell at shit, but not with chaotic rage as before…If I stubbed my toe, I’d yell at the wall. If I spilled shit, I’d yell at it. Lots of shit. Lots of yelling. You know the phrase don’t sweat the small stuff? Most of the shit that gets us down is small stuff. Lots of small shit rolled into one big fucking giant dung ball.
Like all the fucking time….grocery bag handle rips because I’m carrying 18 bags…stupid motherfucker…..laundry basket is in my way….goddammit….all the shit….all the yelling….
It’s been a little over a year since I discovered that cancerous tumor that led me to the diagnostic mammogram….leading to an ultra sound….leading to the biopsy….all within the same day….How concerned should I be doctor Max, very concerned was his reply….Thus #badboob was born. At that time, I had no idea that bitch boob was hosting two different cancers and six tumors…..motherfucking tits.
For all intent purposes, my cancer is gone. Treatment is complete. Reconstruction is finished. So I should feel good, right? Wrong. I’m far from alright. Breast Cancer has fucked me up far beyond belief. I’m trying to form my feelings into words. There are no words I can put here for you to read for you to understand how breast cancer affected me and the millions of women battling breast cancer and amputation of your tits. It fucks each person up their own way. Some can bounce back. I’ve never really been one to let shit get me down…..but this…..this is so hard to overcome.
I’m not pleased with reconstruction results. Like seriously, not happy. I knew I’d never have ‘tits’ again. Although the boob like shapes sticking our from my body add to my ‘normal’ appearance. But, they are cold and implants are too large on my frame, still having to hoist them up to relieve back pain, they are uneven. I am crushed. After this ride, I’d like to look in the mirror with out tears streaming down my face. My breathing speeds up. My heart jumps into my throat and I literally feel as if I could explode internally. I feel as if I’m literally drowning. Will I always feel like this? I feel the answer should be no.
So many things I could do before chemo that I can’t do with ease today. Brush my teeth, reach my arm behind my back, I use slip on shoes so I don’t have to tie. The neuropathy is fucking crazy. The shakes are hardcore, feels as if I’ve got early Parkinson’s or some shit.
Don’t sweat the small stuff…….it’s all small shit
How is it that you can read my mind? All this and more. I pretend to be okay, but you know the truth, you live it every day, just like me. ❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes. And trying to formulate how you feel without tears is impossible for me. Hence more misunderstand and frustration on my part.
LikeLike
This was a great read. I’m so glad you are still writing your rage and documenting your process. I would suggest that you are bouncing back. In slo-mo. Because you’re not taking shortcuts or denying shit or candy coating. You’re dealing with it. Give yourself a pat on the back and change what you want to change – no one took away your power to change what behaviors you find unhelpful or disturbing. I want to thank you for keeping your voice booming out and for helping so many other people. Much love to you!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you. For everything. You are a true gem in the rubble.
LikeLike